Monday, August 11, 2008


Jeff was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jeff was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jeff was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jeff and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"

Jeff replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jeff, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes, it is," Jeff, said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."

I reflected on what Jeff said.

Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jeff did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers.

While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jeff was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jeff was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jeff about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he said, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Want to see my scars?"

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jeff replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.

Jeff continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said

Jeff. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.'"

Jeff lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

*Author Unknown

I don't totally agree with this post but I understand what it is saying. I do believe that most of us with a weight problem, it takes more than just a good attitude to make things right. It takes all the strength God has for us. It takes seeing things through the eyes of God and how he looks on being a glutton or being lazy. Most of us who are over weight may have one of these problems. Some have things in their bodies that don't work exactly right and other may have other reasons. But I do know that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. It is not easy but most of life is not easy if it is worth having. When we accomplished something or get something through hard word and effort they always mean so much more to us.

So having a good attitude is very important!!! but looking to God for our help and strength is a MUST. Putting these things together we will not fail but we will lose. Have a great week. This is my rotation where I eat as normally I would but I just watch the amount that I eat. It purpose is to not go into starvation mode but to keep the body burning those calories that we are taking in. Have a good week in which ever way you are chosing for a help in loseing the weight and I'll be praying for you. connie


Pam--in Jerusalem said...

Have a good "free" week on your rotation!
Thank you for your prayers; you're in mine as well.


Dear Pam, thank you for those prayers. I appreciate them so much. connie

Rachelle(aka mamabear) said...

Congrats on the weight you have lost! I am mama to 9 blessings and each one has left a little something on me!! I have about 60 pounds yes 60 pounds , I am in my 30's and I really need to get it off. I do not know if God will bless us with more or not. I know it is not good to be over weight and add another baby to that. I was wondering what advice you could give me for losing the weight. It seems like I have tried everything out there and lose a litle and then gain it back!! I am still nursing, she is just about one and just started eating. Any help would be great. You can email me at mamaslittlebears@gmail(dot)com This way you won't have to tie up your blog.
Thank you & Blessings-


Dear Rachelle, I must say that you are a very blest young lady.

I will tell you what I have learned but I am by no means an expert in this battle. I have fought my whole life and just these past months do I feel that I am beginning to see things the way God wants me too about the matter of losing weight. I will send you and e-mail but if you will also read my post "SHEW ME THY WAYS, O LORD; TEACH ME THY PATHS." POSTED ON JULY 8, 2008. This post will tell you the things that I have learned so far. It has taken me far to long to learn them. I pray that you will be able to do much better. You have a great family and you need to be around to take care of them and love them, they need you. connie

I am sending you an e-mail. I do pray that with God's help you can find the help that you need. I hope I can help you.